Our modern society has its standards and codes and having self-confidence has become an essential tool to succeed. That’s why it’s rather wise to understand and build your self-confidence so that you can have the right tools close at hand when needed.

The issue here is not to focus on the negative patterns of your subconscious mind anymore like for instance “I am not good enough and never will be.” When we concentrate on these areas, we simply destroy our self-confidence rather than improving it.

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If you could improve right now your self-confidence you could, for instance, make more money, look and feel better physically, or maybe just more relaxed with yourself and other people.

Here are five simple practical ways that have been proved to help you build your self-confidence.

1. Talk to yourself

At first sight, this idea may sound crazy but it works. Whether you know it or not, all of us have a running monolog constantly in our heads. When you use your senses, they spark off an immediate dialog in your thoughts.

Now, when you lack confidence, this is because this monolog is filled with negative messages. These negative messages can be hidden deep within yourself. Maybe you have completely forgotten their origin and all of a sudden they come up.

These negative thoughts can ruin your life. They take all your attention and block the flow of your positive messages. What happens is that you spend your time to repress them. This is normal, you want your friends and family see you in your best light.

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It is not a matter of opposing negative messages to positive messages, it will not work. What we are trying to do here is to leave the negative messages alone. You should not give them more attention.

Trying to hear your positive messages is the only way to boost self-confidence and increase self-esteem. To build your self-confidence, you have to take control of your mind. Therefore, use your thoughts to speak to you in a positive way, whenever the opportunity presents itself.

Let me give you an example. One of my regular sayings is “I love myself, I love myself, I love myself”. I just repeat it for a couple of minutes.  Try it for yourself.

But for varying reasons, it is very difficult for some people to do this exercise. If you can not do it, that’s ok. Try this one. Sit in a quiet place and try to see yourself in your imagination saying “I love myself”. You must not be stressed when you say it. Just try to imagine yourself saying “I love myself”. That’s it. Let me know if it works by leaving a comment.

2.  Get a new look

This one may seem quite shallow but sometimes a simple change to improve your outward appearance can boost the mind. You’d be amazed at how a simple change to your appearance can help you take control of your self-confidence and self-esteem. Go for drastic, give it a try just to see what happens. Maybe you’ll love it, maybe not, you’ll never know unless you try.

Wear clothes that you are not used to putting on, such as more classic or more modern, it all depends on your style. The key words here are comfortable and confident. Go to the hairdresser and make yourself a new hairstyle.

3. Giving thanks

It is important to become aware of the chance you have. You are here, alive and reading this article. Life is sometimes hard but it is also what makes its beauty. Saying thanks to life is simply an act of gratitude.

To build your self-confidence, even more, you must love life by saying thank you to what you are. Say “thank you” to yourself for all that surrounds you, for all the people you meet. You do not need to say it aloud. Smile at life because it is the only wealth you have.

4. Stand or sit correctly

Look after your attitude. Above all, it is a matter of adapting to the usages and habits of society. An easy and very effective way to keep a good posture is to always be aware of your surroundings. Observe your thoughts.

In our modern society, we live more and more among robots but we must not behave like them. When you adopt a good posture, your body is aligned with itself. This will help your mind stay sharp.

The way you stand sends out a signal to people around you, and in turn, back to you. This results in improving the way you feel about yourself and will help you build self-confidence.

Body language is an important aspect of our modern society. This is why there have been many scientific studies on the subject.

Therefore, if you want to lift your mood, the ideal posture is to be in its verticality, neither in extension nor contracted, stand tall and upright. By taking this position you are telling yourself and people around you that you are confident, comfortable and unstressed.

5. Happiness in a smile

When you adopt a positive mindset, smiling will be your calling card in your own eyes and in the eyes of others.

Ask yourself this: What is your attitude when you meet new people? Do you give to the other person a welcoming smile or a frowning face? Your answer to these questions will determine your ability to be happy with yourself and others.

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When you smile things seem better somehow. If you practice smiling regularly, you will get your facial muscles used to the physical act of smiling.

“Smile in the mirror. Do that every morning and you’ll start to see a big difference in your life.” -Yoko Ono

If it is an evidence that smiling causes happiness, then your smile must come from inside, because as Ramana Maharshi said:  “Happiness is your true nature. It is not wrong to desire it. What is wrong is seeking it outside when it is inside.”

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Thanks for reading!