Fear comes from the mind and to transcend it, you must be able to understand its functioning. Fear is natural and can sometimes take over and prevent us from moving forward. Fortunately, there are techniques that can help you conquer your fears.
You’ve probably had that sensation: feeling overwhelmed by fear – to the point that it makes you physically sick and prevents you from doing the things you wanted to achieve.
Believe it or not, it’s a common problem that affects many people every day.
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We must not treat lightly the power of fear. It can appear in different ways and prevent you from taking risks, following your dreams or succeeding in what you have undertaken.
If you let fear settle for an inappropriately lengthy period, it can eventually erode your quality of life and keep you locked up in an inactive jail.
What you need to know is that fear is nothing but a conditioned response. It is just a response to a natural reaction in a given situation (frightening or unknown). In fact, this response is generally spontaneous and there are techniques you can use to overcome it.
These are situations of life that everyone can encounter daily.
1) State of your mindset
Fear depends on a lot of factors but what increases its intensity is above all your mindset. What is your state of mind when you experience a dramatic situation? Are you usually positive or negative? In what state of mind do you approach each difficult situation? Do you usually obsessively worry about what might go wrong, rather than focusing on your strengths and abilities?
With a little effort every day, it is possible to learn how to feed on positive thoughts. Try to look at the positive – and sometimes humorous – side of things. It is not an insurmountable obstacle. You have to establish a new pattern of life.
The best place to start is to observe your thoughts for a moment without judgment. Observe your thoughts with a little distance (here is an exercise you can do) and the emotions that accompany them.
Even if anxious thoughts succeed in slipping into your observation, you should not judge them, it is a thought like any other. Try to accommodate them because they are there for a reason and this is not necessarily negative.
2) Don’t get overwhelmed
“The truth is that there is no actual stress or anxiety in the world; it’s your thoughts that create these false beliefs. You can’t package stress, touch it, or see it. There are only people engaged in stressful thinking.” -Wayne Dyer
The mind makes no difference between the experiences you imagine and the experiences you actually live. For example, dreams.
What to do when fear is present? Ask yourself the right questions. For example, is all this likely to happen? And what is the worst thing that can happen?
If you look a little closer to your fears when they arise, you may be able to reject at least a few.
Do not let fear invade you. Rather than worrying about what might happen, you could take this opportunity to improve your performance and try to find solutions to bypass obstacles or possibly seek outside help.
3) Be bold, push yourself a little
“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.” – Nelson Mandela
Fear is a natural process that is omnipresent in the living. But it is our reaction to fear that is peculiar to each individual.
If you change your mindset, you will be able to cope and overcome your fears. To go beyond fear you must be in action. Remember, fear is nothing but thought, the emotion felt.
You have the choice, you can let it harm you or you can choose to ignore the discomfort zone and move forward anyway.
In the end, to overcome fear, you must learn to know yourself.
This will determine your ability to cope with any situation of fear and anxiety. You will then have an essential tool you can count on.
The importance here is not to become a specialist of anything, but rather to empower you to know when a fear is unfounded and easily overcome.